Every person has different motives. However, the best way to achieve them is to make the other person doubt themself to that they hand over their own decision making right to you.
A person may be afraid of you! They fear you will catch on to the loopholes in their stories or their work. Hence to put some distance between the both of you they adopt a non-likeable attitude where they constantly belittle you!
The purpose of this is to keep you away from them. If you try to get close to them for the sake of asking questions or finding out why something went wrong, they will resort to their typical attitude of belittling you and passing negative remarks to get you off their back! Be watchful of such people! Not only are they adopting a condescending attitude but they may be hiding something important which you need to expose.
They might be meddling with work affairs or taking part in something illegal because of which they do not want you around! This is common human nature and it is not only present in men but women too although we fail to observe such patterns probably due to our biased perception of the world around us. Some men may want to feel superior.
In the case they want to feel superior compared to their coworkers or friends and are unable to then they will likely come home and brush this attitude off on the wife or their partner whom they are currently dating. I chose not to see things as they were and instead focused on how I wanted things to be. I minimized all that was bad and clung tightly to whatever scrapes of good I could find, and that was all I needed to keep going.
The pain stayed with me long after the relationship was over, and those wounds took a very long time to heal. It gives you the ability to look at things through an objective lens and make a decision that is in your best interest. You never feel good enough. You feel like nothing you ever do is quite right and are constantly trying to prove your worth.
You become addicted to his validation. Whenever you do something and it generates any sort of approval from him you feel relieved, and it gives you just enough rope to hang onto.
You live in a constant state of unease, of second-guessing yourself, of trying to be better and good enough.
Instead, you have to walk on eggshells and monitor everything you say and do. You feel like you need to think twice before you speak and that certain topics are off limits, that you have to act a certain way.
So you suffer in silence and hope that somehow things will change, that somehow this relationship will magically transform into a healthy, happy one. You may not even recognize the person this relationship is turning you into. Relationships are a chance for enormous personal growth. Sometimes our less-than-stellar qualities are brought to the surface and they need to be dealt with. However, there is a huge difference between a partner who can point out your flaws in a loving way, a way that encourages you to grow, and a partner who does it from a place of contempt.
In a healthy relationship, he will accept you for who you are. Logan Jones , a Manhattan-based psychologist, says. There are ways to joke around with your partner and make fun of each other in a light-hearted way.
But if it ever feels like your partner is putting you down or being disrespectful, consider it a red flag. Feuerman says. If you ever feel weird about the way your partner is treating you or talking to you, trust your gut. Think about any issues behind the criticism. It's not an effective way to go about it, but criticism can be a way of expressing dissatisfaction with a relationship. Talk about any problems openly and honestly.
If you need help with this, you may like to work with a Relationship Counsellor. Focus on the situation or action, not the person. Instead of simply accusing your partner, comment on the consequences or context. Would you like to go to the cinema next Saturday?
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